Perception is powerful! Here's some advice from Rio Salado Counselor Autumn Cardenez to help you get over those rainy days and Mondays that get you down.“We don’t see things as they are,
we see them as we are.” —Anais Nin
As human beings it is impossible to remain a perfectly balanced, happy, upbeat, and positive 24/7. There are things, however, that you can do to help a negative become well…less negative.
It can take a while for an optimistic train of thought to take root, however, there are three questions to ask in any situation that can help.
1. Ask questions that allow you to see the optimistic viewpoint.
When a stressful and negative situation occurs an easy way to try to make it better is to ask yourself questions to promote a better outlook. For example:
● What can I learn from this situation?
● Are there any opportunities?
● Can I do anything about it?
It’s normal if answers do not come immediately but pondering and journaling can really help!
2. Start your day in a positive way.
Do you enjoy a cup of coffee and a brisk walk? I sure do! There cannot be enough said about exercise and the benefits it has on one’s body and mood. Watch something uplifting and fun. Let’s face it…the news is hard to watch at times and often negative. A positive beginning will carry through your entire day.
3. Choose positive people and activities.
While it may not be possible 100% of the time spending your time with positive and supportive people will lift you up. Learn from others. If you know someone who is genuinely a positive and upbeat person seek them out and simply ask “how do you do it?” Make a mental note of their answers and activities and give them a try. Lastly, do the activities you know you enjoy and that make you smile. Sometimes you will only have 30 minutes but that is 30 minutes of positivity that you didn’t have. There are ups and downs to lives, routines, and responsibilities…it’s up to you to find the positive and joy.
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” —Maria Robinson
Contributed by Rio Salado Counselor Autumn Cardenez on behalf of Rio Salado Counseling, helping students with their personal, educational and career goals.